Prioritizing

For the last couple of years I’ve been running around like a chicken with my head cut off.  I worked full-time, went to school part-time, worked on my novel and wrote this blog.  Well, I finally received my undergraduate degree in communication and my novel is nearly complete. 

Now it’s important for me to get the down time that I need to reflect and recover.  But recovery can be exhausting, the emotional work I’m doing is indeed ‘work.’  I need to allow myself extra rest and quiet in order to process all that I’ve been through and still going through.

When I’m rested, the events of my life go more smoothly.  I’ll be less edgy and when the little things go wrong, I’ll have an easier time letting them roll off my back.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins, and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.

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Dealing With My Anger

As an adult child of an alcoholic I’m learning that I tend to hide my feelings, especially anger.  I supposed I learned early in life that a backlash came with expressing my anger.  I was made to feel that I had no right to be angry, so I learned it was best to hide my feelings.

When you hide your anger from yourself, you learn nothing from it and it leaks out in less than function ways.  Anger is a natural feeling and one I am willing to face so that I can get past it toward forgiveness. 

Experiencing my anger doesn’t mean I have to act it out or dump it all over my life.  Nor does it mean I give up my right to feel it.  I am learning that I can tolerate the strength of my angry feelings without acting out or collapsing under their weight.  Knowing that I have the strength to experience and articulate my own feelings builds confidence and strength within me.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins and I’m a recovering adult child of an alcoholic.

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The Power of My Thoughts

I realize that I tend to produce in my life what I feel is true for myself.  My thoughts have a creative power of their own.  If I look closely, I can see my thoughts come to life.  I create the possibility of what I would like by first experiencing it in my mind.

Seven years ago, in my minds’ eye, I visualized myself earning my Bachelor of Art Degree and walking across the stage of a graduation ceremony.  My vision of my higher learning achievement finally came to fruition on January 6, 2017.

Growing up in a dysfunctional home, the youngest child of an alcoholic father and ACOA mother, I had little opportunity to dream of my own future.  My attention was always on others and not myself.  Now I have learned to accept what I see in my inner eye and fully participate in my own vision.  I will enjoy picturing my vision and let it manifest, if it is right for me, in God’s time.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins, and I’m an Adult Child of an Alcoholic.

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Unlocking My Unconscious Mind

I learned years ago in psychology class that the unconscious is the part of the mind that is inaccessible to the conscious mind but affects behavior and emotions.  For so long, I have been out of touch with my inner self.  I’ve been in 'adult child' mode for so long; operating from a vantage point of familiarity and not being open to new and better opportunities for my life.

I recently had a dream that I was pumping gasoline in the back seat of my car rather than in the fuel tank.  I thought this was such an odd dream that I was compelled to look up its meaning.  I learned that to dream of being at a gas station indicates a need to reenergize and revitalize yourself.  This interpretation was spot on.  I have been doing so much for others for so long that I have neglected my needs.  It’s time for me take care of myself.  As an ACOA, I’m learning that it’s okay to reach out to others for help sometimes. 

I always felt there were doors locked away deep within me that I could not open.  I am thankful that I am strong enough now to understand those things that are trapped in my unconscious mind.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins and I am a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.